Despite the brevity of the email, he also managed to squeeze in multiple references to his love of sporty and/or outdoorsy activities. If you know me at all, you know that there is literally nothing in the world that I like less than sporty and/or outdoorsy activities, so this sent up a few little dancing red flags for me.
I don’t mind if a dude likes sports, but if he REALLY like sports or cares a lot about working out, then he and I are probably not going to… well, work out. Especially if he harbors any delusions about convincing me to participate in sports or attend sporting events or “get into shape” in any significant or ongoing way.
I also know that my lack of interest in sweating can be a dealbreaker for a lot of folks, so I made it a point in my reply email to specifically mention that I do not participate in any sports at all, I do not watch them, I do not like them, Sam I am.
So what does he do? He responds and suggests that we meet up tonight at the CLIMBING GYM. I can think of literally no place on earth that I would rather not be than a climbing gym.
I can think of a few possible explanations for this bizarre suggestion:
You may think I’m over-analyzing this dude, but I’ve dated people who fall into Category #2 and I’ve become adept at detecting early warning signs.
I also feel that by our third email exchange, he might have demonstrated at least a passing interest in finding out what kind of stuff I’m into. He’s barely asked me any questions at all, but has already managed to invite me to do the one thing that I specifically told him I’m not interested in doing.
Anyway, we all have our red flags. I have several of my own that I have fashioned into a stylish belt. It’s just that I already have prior negative experience with this particular brand of red flag and am not sure I want to tread too far down that road.
That said, I’m still up for meeting him. Just not at the damn climbing gym.